I was recently informed of a travesty taking place in the local music scene that has me angry and saddened.  The door has been closed on an icon ...

On this day 19 years ago, the path my life was taking, changed forever.  I was not prepared for this change emotionally nor was I ready to admit this to my family.  How can you prepare you heart for something your mind knows is inevitable, but will hurt just the same?  I was the oldest and was to be strong for my mother, and younger siblings.  Well, that is what I was told was my "position" within the family.  To be honest, I think that this attitude helped me to get through this time in my life unscathed, well not exactly, maybe okay is the word, no maybe . . . who am I kidding, it was horrible!!!

In light of recent allegations of abuse against the Phillies pitcher, Brett Myers, I felt I needed to post this story.  I am in no way looking for sympathy, just to inform and educate. This story was posted on another site; I was surprised and touched by the reaction.  This is written from my perspective of as an abused woman; I am in no way saying that this does not nor cannot happen to a man.  According to several counselors I have spoken to most abusers, start out with verbal abuse, and then escalate to physical.  As the abusers are able to gain more control, the violence intensifies and the victims concede defeat.  My story is written to show that pattern of behavior and how subtle it can be.  Below is the definition of Domestic Violence from The National Domestic Violence Hotline's website.